Opinions of a murri woman...

Opinions of a murri woman...

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Accept Or Ignore This Friendship?



FACEBOOK, MYSPACE, BEBO are what we all know as 'Social Networking Sites'... Linking our friendships online in the cyber world... But are they a gift or a burdon?? This is the question I ask myself, as I delete another 'friend' off my facebook...

Okay, I'm not going to lie... I love facebook... Some would say I'm... Ummmm, what's the word I'm looking for.. Ummmm.... ADDICTED?? Yes, correct... I first started using facebook in the year 2006... Over the years, I have grown to love this social networking site, sometimes a little too much...

It got me thinking the other day... Remember just a few years ago, when we would meet someone face to face, often in a club, or through friends. From there, the friendship would develope by 'catching up', or 'lets do lunch, or have a drink'... As the weeks would progress, you would get to know that person, then make the decision if you want to keep them in your life, or simply 'delete them'...

One of the problems with society today, is that we're forced to be friends with someone simply because they 'friend requested you' on a social networking site'... There, I said it... Sure alot of people can say 'Ignore', but then are faced with the akward silence the next time you see that person in real life...

Next problem: What is the protocol on adding someone you maybe interested in romantically?? Does it speed up the 'getting to know you process' or does it in fact do more damage, having them know all about you and your daily activities?

We add random people onto our friends list in order to 'keep the peace', to be nice and play nice', but when it comes to our real lives and social circle, we should ask ourselves, 'would we really be friends with that person and want them knowing all of that information'??

Ohhhh and another thing.. This is where it gets complicated... Back in the day (only 5 years ago), before facebook, we each had the power to brush someone out of our lives. If we didn't want that person to find us, then we'd simply stay away from them, or pretend that we were busy when we'd see them in the street.. Now all they have to do is simply punch in our names and they know instantly that we have this many siblings, we 'like' this particular topic, and have joined groups of 'this' description...

Of course there are ways that you can eliminate people off your facebook.. Deleting them would be a start, but have you ever discovered the block button after you delete them? Take it from an expert who has a block list that goes for days, just deleting someone off facebook isn't enough anymore.... Why is this? Once a person discovers they have been deleted off someones page, It can cause them to be slightly... Ummmm how would you put it? Hurt...?? Riggghhhttt....

For all those first time users who are scared to hurt someones feelings by deleting them off your facebook page, all because you would rather save the hassel of a bitter twisted 'why don't you like me anymore' message from someone on your list that never spoke to you or engaged in any conversation on chat with you, then I'd suggest that 'the block button' becomes your new friend...

As fun as they are, Social networking sites often cause more damage than good... In saying that, I love facebook sometimes, and really can't remember what social life was like before our minds got taken over by a simple mini feed and profile... Sad I know...

Reality is, we all love to add a new friend and catch up with mates in the cyber world from the comforts of our own home, but when it comes to deleting an indivdual, we are all guilty of hesitating for a moment and thinking what kind of affects it will have on our real lives outside of the computer screen if we were to see that person again (don't pretend like you don't)....

It all sounds so simple.. It's just a networking site right? That person can never actually catch up with me in real life, and they won't care..... Will they? I say go forward with the deleting, Block them and move on... It's the cyber world, they'll make new friends and eventually they'll forget about you...

So after one too many cyber stalkers and a few angry private messages since the start of the year, I feel it's time to do another clean out of my facebook friends list... Oh and if you're on my friends list and reading this, then you've obviously made the cut.... Until we next chat (probably online)....


One Love, One Life....

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